If recent statistics are correct, men are choosing to marry later in life, with the average age being 28 before experiencing their “ah ha” moment, which is a good thing. Nevertheless, there are still many young men and women getting married too young, and far too many couples get married for the wrong reasons and end up regretting it later.
According to one survey claiming men DO want to get married, married men reported positive feelings about being married, with 94% saying they were happier married than single, and 73% reported their sex lives were better. Of the single men included in the study, 53% said they were not interested in getting married anytime soon, saying “at this stage in my life I want fun and freedom”, while 47 % said they wouldn’t get married until they could afford to own a home.
Of the 1,010 men aged 25-34 who were surveyed, 569 were married. Of that group, 81% said they got married “because it was the right time to settle down.” The desire to have children was a major factor for 35%; only 15% said they married sooner than they wished because of pressure from their partner.
Another study was conducted by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University of 60 single, heterosexual men of different backgrounds, between the ages of 25-33. The project results revealed the top ten reasons why men won’t commit, or don’t want to get married.
- They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past.
- They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabitating rather than marrying.
- They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
- They want to wait until they are older to have children.
- They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
- They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t appeared yet.
- They face few social pressures to marry.
- They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.
- They want to own a house before they get a wife.
- They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.
These findings may not be what women want to hear or believe, but relationship experts agree with the results of the study. Anyway, marriage is about finding the right person, at the right time and under the right circumstances so the marriage will be lifelong. So, dear ladies, it’s better to couple with a man who feels ready than to try to ‘make ready’ a man.